Updated: Nov 13, 2018
Putting yourself first is one of the biggest challenges we all have. Seriously – should it be so hard to put yourself first? Here is the way I look at it…. If YOU are not effective and at your best what good are you to your other half, your kids, your family, your friends, your employer. So it’s simple right? Put YOU first. If only………..
This is something I have worked on the last couple years and while I am much better at it I have not mastered it. I often need encouragement and the pressure around us makes it so hard some days. The pressure to be the best wife, best mother, best daughter, best friend….… it’s all so overwhelming.
I’m going to let you in a little secret. It is OK to be selfish. This does not make you a bad person. Sometimes you have to say NO. Sometimes you have to choose YOU over someone or something else. For me it is the key to happiness and living MY best life.
This often requires us to re-assess. Look at your priorities, what is chewing up your time? Stressing you out? Keeping you from the things you love to do.
Stop drowning for people who won’t even get in the damn water for you.
Something to be said for that. We often spin our wheels doing things for others or sign up for things that just are not that important in the grand scheme of things. Guess what? You decide what is important and don’t let others dictate that for you. This can be different for all of us and there is not a one set of rights and wrongs. It’s about you and YES some will judge. Judge away. Those that judge will never understand you and they don’t have to. It is likely they are busy living their life for everyone but themselves because the pressures of the day are pushing them to. Lead by example… maybe at some point they will see how incredibly happy
and amazing your life is and ask you what the secret is.
The secret is YOU. Numero Uno.